There is a wisdom in the stories that our grandmothers tell us. It’s the medicine of generations.  The stories of our collective pasts, and the hope for our future. The world of birth is not new and neither is the work of the birthkeeper.

When you decide to become an Abuela doula, you will be encouraged to reach back into your cultural heritage to bring forward the traditions of your mothers and your mothers’ mothers. The role of a doula is to support and to be with women as they travel through pregnancy, birth and those early postnatal days. To sit in and share the wisdom of the Abuelas, the grandmothers.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. – Marianne Williamson


We believe that there should be a doula for all women. Each woman should be able to look within her own community and culture, as well as beyond, to find her doula. It is a very special and intimate time, so becoming a woman’s doula is a privilege.  Abuela doulas bring a sense of home.

Being a doula does not start and end with birth. It’s about supporting each family for as much of the journey as they wish. On completion of this course, Abuela doulas should be able to:

• work with a base set of values and principles
• network and build links within the local birth community
• build a greater knowledge of birth support and what it means to be a doula
• develop insight into personal motivations with a sense of not imparting these onto others
• encourage the practice of taking personal responsibility and informed consent
• list the benefits of antenatal, birth and postnatal support
• set up, network, market their doula business


Working as a doula leaves a lot of space for self-reflection. Just as you journey alongside your clients, a mentor will walk alongside you. A mentor gives you space to debrief and process.

It is wonderful to sit at the feet of any wiser, older, sister. There you will find accountability, empathy, honesty, reliability, a critical friend who will challenge you, give you faith, push you along and help you with your boundaries.

Mars Lord

Abuela courses are facilitated by award winning doula Mars Lord. She has been a birth keeper for over a decade. After attending the Paramana Doula course with Michel Odent and Lilliana Lammers, a spark was lit within her and the passion that she discovered for birth and supporting women has fired her soul ever since. She has had the privilege of working with hundreds of women.

As a founding member of Birth In The City alongside Maisie Hill and Nicola Mahdiyyah Goodall, she delights in working with other doulas and sharing our collective stories and skills.

Her work with pregnant women and their families has led her to speak at conferences and to lead workshops, namely Loving The Multiple Mamas. She has had the privilege of speaking at Mumsnet’s Bumpfest, twice, the Doula UK Conference (2016) and Feminism In London, twice. She also ran the inaugural Reproductive Justice Retreat (Nov 2018).

Watch Mars speaking at the Doula UK Conference, 2016

Reclaiming Your Ancestral Birth Retreat

Black women are 5 times more likely to die within childbirth than white women. Studies talk about the need to develop and evaluate services to mitigate the risk of dying that are associated with being of black Caribbean or African ethnicity.

You are going to change that. Join us for a weekend retreat of CPD, workshops, discussions, ceremonies & rituals as well as activism.

Reproductive Justice Retreat

In 2018 we hosted our first Abuela Retreat. A weekend retreat of CPD, workshops, discussions, ceremonies & rituals as well as activism for black birth keepers, doulas, midwives, natural health advocates and women’s wellness practitioners who know our clients deserve excellence.



Abuela Retreat 

8th-11th October 2020

Doula Preparation Courses: 

2020 Dates
Friday 24th January – Monday 27th January 2020. London
Friday 31st January – Monday 3rd February 2020. Birmingham
Friday 8th May – Monday 11th May 2020. Leeds
Friday 12th June – Monday 15th June 2020. London
Friday 11th September – Monday 14th September 2020. London
Friday 18th September – Monday 21st September 2020. Birmingham

Postnatal Sankofa

Monday 20th – Wednesday 22nd April 2020. London
Friday 22nd –  Sunday 24th May 2020. Birmingham
Friday 21st – Sunday 23rd August 2020. Birmingham

Abuela Blog

BLA (Black Lives Abuela) Scholarship Fund

The BLA (Black Lives Abuela) Scholarship Mars Lord 15th July 2020 Fund to date:£12,689.72collectedRAISED IN 43 DAYSWe need more Black birthworkers. Black women are at greater risk during the perinatal period. They are five times more likely to die than their white...

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Where’s your knee?

Where's your knee? Mars Lord 8th June 2020 Well what a heavy past couple of weeks.We’ve seen the world begin to crack open their eyes again at the reality that is racism. Hard for some to see, and so they deliberately turned away, citing busyness, a need to withdraw...

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